The Secret to “Having It All”


The Secret to "Having It All" | Denver Metro Moms BlogLet me start by saying that I LOVE being a mother. Absolutely love it. The highs, the lows, the snuggles, even the tears. Since my son was born 18-months-ago, I have been in a serious love affair with all things mama hood.

That being said, it’s been a weird few weeks in my household.

(Blame it on the daylight savings time change screwing with my toddler’s sleep schedule or the daily changes in our crazy Colorado weather.) I’ve been in a serious funk that I can’t seem to shake. It seems like at some point during everyday I feel like I’m at my wits end… And everyday it’s caused by a different source.

A screaming toddler, a muddy dog, and my husband’s clothes all over our floor are a few of the recent daily happenings in my house. Now, I know what you’re thinking, even typing them just now felt silly: these are completely insignificant and stupid, and you’re right.

I’m not someone who has ever let the “little things” get to me, so I honestly am not sure what my deal is lately, but after a few constant days of feeling like this, I started to ask myself what the underlying cause could be.

You see, I know how lucky I am. I’m married to the kindest, most hardworking man I’ve ever met. He still makes me laugh until I cry after 5 years and has now turned into the world’s best dad. We have a sweet baby dog who I get to share my pillow with every night. I get to be called mama by our red-headed mister who is hands down the most hysterical toddler I’ve ever met, and my heart basically explodes from my chest every time he reaches out to hold my hand, which easily happens 10 times a day.

So what is there to get upset about? To be honest with you… Nothing. For whatever reason, I’ve had to remind myself of this lately, and it makes it all that much sweeter.

So much of our lives we’re trying to “do it all” and “have it all” and the pressure makes us forget that more often than not, we already do “have it all,” it’s just all about your perception.

Frustrated because we’re in a rush to get out the door to be on time to gymnastics class? How about remembering how lucky I am that we can not only afford extracurricular classes for our kiddo, but that I get to be the one to take him because I don’t have an office job!

My son SCREAMING during the entire car ride on the way home from the park? Not ideal, but aside from the fact that it means we are lucky to have friends to meet at the park to play, it also means he is healthy and teething and developing like someone his age should.

Yes, trying to squeeze your kid into his car seat when the car next to you parks like a jerk may not be your favorite part of the day, but I can think of about a million things that could be worse.

Bottom line here is, the next time you are feeling annoyed at something, take a minute to stop and focus on what it is exactly that you’re upset about before it snowballs, because I can assure you there is a silver lining if you look. Sure, we all have off days where we’re just in a funk, but every season in motherhood is so fleeting – enjoy the good and the bad in this one before it’s over.

Because if you have people who love you, a roof over your head at night, and kiddos who you watch as your heart lives outside of your body and inside of them, then chances are you already “have it all.”

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Raised in a small town in rural Kansas, Jessica moved back to her birth state of Colorado nearly a decade ago. After graduating college with a degree in Accounting, she specialized in Corporate Tax Accountant consulting years and simultaneously danced in the NBA as a Denver Nuggets Dancer from 2008-2012. She now works as a board certified Realtor® and is more than thankful to have a career that allows her the flexibility to work from home and spend time with her 19 month old son. In addition to being a wife, mamma and Realtor, she and her husband flip houses professionally in the Denver metro area. She lives in Castle Pines with her husband Chris, son Casen & black lab Bitty. She's been obsessed with all things mamma since her son was born in September of 2015 and is hopeful that the honesty in her blog posts will help new mamas!


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