I Have a Favorite Child (and that’s okay)


Okay, okay, I’ll say it: we parents of multiple children have a favorite child.

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I can almost hear moms shaking their heads in shock and disagreement. OR maybe you are wondering how the heck I can live with myself.

And to you I say: sit tight! Your day will come, my friend.

When you think about it, it’s inevitable that we have a favorite because our kids are easier humans at certain ages. Right now in my world, my oldest has taken back the title of “my favorite child” from that sweet, fresh-as-a-daisy newborn. He has slowly won me back with his charming charisma, easy going attitude and the fact that he can wipe his own bottom (well, most days). He takes care of me when I’m sick, tells me he loves me “just because”, and what really sealed the deal for me is how he helps when THAT BABY is in a mood.

Let’s talk about that baby. It feels like I was tricked by this angelic face and sweet disposition for the last 12-months until he had me right where he wanted me, and then…BOOM! He transformed. And I can’t blame him really; when today’s favorite was around months 13-17 months I remember thinking it was the end of times and I wanted to curl up in a ball and cry. Instead, I put him in mothers-day-out twice a week.

This age is something for the books in my house.

They are frustrated all the time because they want to walk and they can’t. They want to communicate with you but they can’t. They live in a constant state of can’t and frustration. The tantrums! The drama! Until they are able to walk and communicate basic needs a little more, we are continuously stuck in this glorious purgatory.

But fear not, friends! I love my sons, both of them, equally. But as you moms know, there are seasons in parenting that rock our world, and we all have our own little tricks of surviving the longer days, the harder times, and the at-our-wist moments. Having a favorite child is a fickle thing and changes like the wind (or whenever one child decides to be easier than the other for a moment).

Do you have a “favorite?” How do you cope with the tough mama-days?


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Lauren is a proud Texan turned Denverite for life. She lived in Denver's Platt Park neighborhood for four fabulous and fun-filled years, and recently moved further south near Cherry Creek State Park and the Denver Tech Center. She is a stay-at-home-mom of two kids under three, and being a mom brings more joy and completeness than she ever imagined. She is happy, but tired, mostly tired. In her former life sans kiddos, she had the job of her dreams in the non-profit/event-planning world, which took her all over the country including Dallas, New York, Las Vegas and finally Denver. Somewhere in the middle she met a man who loved the mountains, married him in 2010, left Texas for good and had two sweet and handsome little boys. She was shocked when they let her take the first one home without an instruction manual. Alas, she is daily figuring out motherhood through trial and error, good community, and a whole lot of grace. Her favorite things are coffee and chardonnay, books and baths, and quiet time, which she happily looks forward to in 18-years. She writes over at Happy Haven Blog about all things home and family. You can follow her daily adventures at Happy Haven Blog's Facebook Page.


  1. I am currently experiencing this renewed love for my oldest who just entered middle school. Seems opposite of what usually happens. I sure do appreciate gaining his unique perspective. Thanks for having the courage to admit this.


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